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A friend? Or just taking advantage?

I have a friend, let’s just call her Ling, who is from a small town. We first met when we started college back in April 2012 in Kuala Lumpur. At first, everything seems to go smoothly. Ling is a friend, who seems to be always ready to help out by taking seats and things like that. But gradually, problems arise.

At first, it is nothing serious. A question or two on the lectures, coming late and expecting me to save seats for her when she lives but 5-minutes walk away, etc. I thought she might be having some problems. Also, her English is not that strong and she needed my help, or so I thought.

But later on, when she realized that I am always ready to help,she seems to start taking advantage of me. Not to say she didn’t reciprocate the favours, but she seems to think a meal or two will be more than sufficient for her to take up all my spare time. Even worse, she started interrupting me during the lecture! So I shushed her and told her to wait until the lectures were over.

And so we go on. Over time, she came to be so dependent on me for her studies that I felt quite pressured and stifled. She dominated all my time at college, limiting my interaction with other friends. Everywhere I turn in the college she was practically in my face. She even suggested we eat breakfast and lunch together for every day we have class! You may comment that it doesn’t sounds so terrible; it is normal for friends to eat together. But you don’t know her! She eats a lot and very slowly, so whenever I eat with her, I am afraid of being late to class. Worse, she likes to talk when eating even though we are already running late and she even stop chewing to talk! Wouldn’t you be frustrated too?!

One day, she asked me whether we could study together. I said yes as she needed the help. Never have I so regretted a decision I made! On that fatal day, we decided to work on an assignment. Before we even started, she was already asking me what and how should she write in the assignment. So, I told her about the outline of the assignment and left her to write.

I was just starting on my first paragraph when she interrupted me, asking me to check her work. Goodness! She had only just written two lines! TWO miserable lines! So I asked her to finish her work before I checked for her. She subsided with the requests to check her work, but not with frequent questions about what to write next. After being interrupted in the middle of my thoughts for the nth time, I stopped trying to work, knowing it is futile. And so I wasted a day while the exams edged nearer.

I have this uncomfortable feeling that she is so friendly to me because I am a valuable source of information for her. While I have little to no knowledge of the fashion world and Korean stars whom she likes very much, I do have much information about our course and studies, procured after long hours of self studying.

At long last, the school year came to an end. From this September onwards, we embark on different courses, she on a twinning programme to UK; me, with my strained finances, doing an external UK programme. I congratulated myself for finally gaining freedom.

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An Unplanned Visit to the Cinema

Today, the second day of my freedom, I planned an excursion to the mall with my friends for lunch and a chat. Secondary school friends. Although I have made new friends in college, I still felt more comfortable with them than with my friends from college. There is easy camaraderie between us, none so with my college friends. Although I see them more often, they usually make me slightly tense. I couched my responses and make polite small talk. It is all so painfully staged.

So, I went out today with my friends (only 3 of them). After a nice lunch, which took almost 2 hours as we chat, we decided to leave the shop as we do not want to incur the wrath of the proprietor from blocking his business. Thinking of what to do next, one of my friends, KJ, suggested a movie. All agreed.

Which movie, though, caused some lively debate. PE suggested Fast and Furious 6 but KJ and I protest as we have never seen its prequels. Aries then suggested After Earth, but I remind them that I had already watched it. At last, we settled for Man of Steel, although I do not like Superman.

Suffice it to say that I was nearly bored out of my mind. PE became quite annoyed by me and KJ as both of us chuckled uncontrollably throughout the film, and she had the misfortune to sit between, as she calls us, ‘crazy laughing loons’. I know, probably rude to say that the film was comically uninteresting, but that is what me and my friends felt.

For us who don’t follow Superman through his exploits, the plot is somewhat confusing. Worst still, the first hour and half or so was without much action, mostly about his upbringing and memories. It is so completely uninteresting that I had a hard time focus. Then action was crammed in only at the very last part of the movie. We all agreed that the plot was too loose at first, and too intense at the end.

Personally, I feel that although Man of Steel is better than After Earth, it isn’t that much better. Both are films which lead audience to anticipate action, but were left unsatisfied. Although there is action at the end of Man of Steel, it just seems so crammed, that it isn’t enjoyable anymore.

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